The game we used to play

Flings: It's usually simple and straight forward, but not always understood. Here's a post about what usually happens after a fling.

The victim: The other person. The young at the game, vulnerable lover. People looking for love, but instead ends up finding trouble. A mixture of gullibility and lack of experience might just be the death of you in this game we all play. But unfortunately, there's nothing a player loves more than an easy win. They will target people like this and go in for the easy kill. It makes sense that a person would think to go for easier targets, saving themselves the trouble and have more momentum for other things to be done, all in the name of getting laid.

The player: Can be a dude, can be a girl. But you know, a girl can be called a hooker, a guy can't. So in this case we'll take dudes as the players. The players, all they care about is to get you in their arms for just one night. And after that, leave you alone and never call you back. These people, they're very serious in what they do, not looking for a serious relationship. Ironically, the people they love to target are the people who are very serious for a serious relationship. Depending on how desperate they are, these people will do anything to get you hooked. To them, you're just an ice cream stick. At first you may be useful to them, but once the ice cream's all gone, you'll be thrown away, forgotten.

1) The Bait - First impression is always important. Mushy words will be key, and their goal is to make you fall in love.

2) Hooked - Once that's done, seduction and temptation comes to play. Intoxicate you with drinks and laughter, until you just can't get enough of the person.

3) Reeling in - They will ask you to do something you don't normally do. Keep you vulnerable and giving them full control over you

4) Net it - Putting you in a place the they're comfortable with and you're not. Making you feel that you need them around to keep you comfortable and safe

5) The Kill - Finally, they will have you in their arms, fooled by love. At this point, whether you realizes it or not, they can ask you to do anything they want

6) Pre Gutting - After the person gets what they want, they have no use for you and leave you be just like that, never to see you again.

7) The Trade - There you are, all alone. Feeling so used. The person gets what they want, and you get educated on a thing or two about love. Somehow or rather, it's a win win situation :D

Well, although rare, but there are times when flings are a mutual thing. Both you and that person want the same thing. To have fun with you, then forget it ever happened. It's simple and straight forward, shouldn't be a problem to understand it. But then, once you've played the game for too long, you get tired of it. You feel this emptiness inside, feeling that you truly will, never find love. Destined to stay single forever in this countless flings. And sometimes, that's all you need to change yourself. You start looking for love, afraid that someday you will die a lonely, sad sad person. All because when you were young, you took love for granted. And now, it's messing you up.

ACCEPT or DECLINE

All of us, everyone in this world. All we ever want is acceptance. From childhood until the day we die, all that really matters is to be accepted.

And as we grow, the level of acceptance and it's importance in our lives also grow just as we do. From being accepted into this world, to take in that first breath of air all the way until the point of whether we'll be accepted into Heaven or Hell. We all just want to be accepted.

Even if, at first, having the first conversation with what it seems, the most amazing person you'll ever meet is the best form of acceptance you can get, will later be just another word in our vocabulary: a friend. Or if the first girl to ever talk to you might cause your heart to beat fast and slow at the same time, might even cause you to fall in love. How you wish that girl felt the same way you do when you're around her. How you hoped she'd accept your love but you're just too afraid to find out the answer. Yet now, flirting with girls and toying with their emotions is just another daily routine in the life of a playboy.

Like it or not, all we want in life is acceptance. Whether it's for love or simply for who we are, we all depend on one another to answer us with the greatest word in the English dictionary: "okay". Okay. Something a person would say if they accepts something. It's an amazing word because just by saying it, you destroy all forms of argument and confusion, sometimes could even be enough to cheer someone up. You should try saying it sometimes :)

However, different people may have different forms acceptance that they're after. Some might be looking for someone out there to spend the rest of their lives together, some just want people to accept the gifts or talents that they have to offer to world, some just want you to accept that they're happy the way they are, while others just want to be left alone where he/she can be whoever they want to be. There's nothing left to do but to just accept what people have to say, then maybe they will to accept you for who you are.

A restart button

Mistakes: some mistakes are better to repeat while others are better left untouched. Some mistakes are better to be repeated because we still believe that it is in fact not a mistake at all. While other mistakes are just wrong from top to bottom, enough to bring even the toughest men to their deaths.

In life, we make decisions, we make mistakes. Some are simpler normal everyday mistakes that we do, while others are mistakes that don't really occur that much but when it does happen, you start having this feeling inside: a well blended mixture of sadness, regrets and self hatred. As humans, we make mistakes. It's this simple imperfection in us that makes us uniquely perfect and there's nothing we can do to avoid it. Remember that fact in everything that we do. Yes we make mistakes, everyone knows that. But what most people don't realise is that, with every mistakes that we make, simple or difficult, there's always a restart button. No matter how bad a situation may seem, there's always a way to make it better. Back to the way it used to be, a restart button. We just have to look for it :)

Maybe we can't undo some things and maybe some feelings just never fade away, but I believe there's always a way to make a person feel better and go through anything life has to offer. It could be your friends, it could be music, it could be driving, it could even be something as simple as eating. Just find anything that calms you down. Life's too short to fill it with regrets and guilt. Because no matter how much we cry or get depressed over a mistake we did, it'll never undo the mistakes we make. We just have to make the best of what we have and leave the past behind us.

So to all you feeling like crap because of a mistake you've made in the past, don't think too much about it. If you really didn't mean to do what you did, I'm sure the person will understand (yes even if you killed that person) no need to worry, just apologise and give the person some time to approach you again. To the person involved, you have every right to get angry. It's your emotions after all. But think back, is it necessary to get angry? Has the person caused so much damage to you? Did he/she purposely caused you to be like this? If your answer is yes for all three questions, then you might want to approach this person to make him/her realise the mistake they did to you, then listen to what he/she has to say. If there's not even a single hint of apology in what the person say, by all means rip their heads off :D

Learn from your mistakes, you might even realise that the biggest mistakes you make might as well be the biggest success you made. Humans, we learn to improve ourselves each day. And each day we learn to forgive one another even more frequently. It is as humans, in our nature to make mistakes :) we just have to look at it from a different angle to realise what a mistake it is.

Compromise Damn it!

People come and go everyday saying stuff about how they dreamed to better but there’s always something blocking their way to achieving it. No matter what they say, it'll always have more or less the same message "I'm not good enough" or "It's not my fault" or "If only I had a chance". All I have to say to you, COMPROMISE

Fact is, people tend to want something they can't have. I'm not saying you can never have it, you're just not ready for it yet. Believe me, you'll never be not good enough for something. You just haven't found something you're awesome at. There are a million different things to do out there, I'm sure you'll find one thing you're awesome at :)

Saying it's not your fault - all you're doing is denying what you did. Well maybe you're not a hundred percent guilty on whatever it is you're accused of, but think back, are you a hundred percent innocent? The reason I say this is because when someone accuse you of something, the person must have suspected you for something. Someway, somehow you did something to put yourself into trouble. If you honestly think you’re innocent, fight for your right. Otherwise, accept the fact that you did something and now you have to pay for it. And to those thinking of blaming someone, take a chill pill. Relax, think for a while. Has this person really done anything bad? Try to put yourself in their perspective first, that way when you do blame that person, at least you have a strong reason to back you up.

In this life, chances are everywhere. Anything can be a stepping stone for something bigger. You just have to put your mind into it. Focus on what you want and how you want to get it. Once you've got that through, I'm sure you can make any simple nothing to be something awesome. Cause let's face it, most of the awesome stuff in this world is something we would not think of investing on because it didn't seem so important at that time. Take drinking straws for example, before it's time, straws didn't even make their way to our minds at all. At that time, we take our drinks like nature intended it to be drunk. But now, some genius defeated the laws of physics and created this, this eighth wonder of the world: the drinking straw. It's amazing how that dude figured out a way to make water flow into our thirsty throats using no effort whatsoever. Kudos to you Straw Man :D

All I'm saying is, if you learn to compromise in life, good things will come to you. And even in love, people always dream of the perfect someone (oh don't you deny it) chances are, you won't get this fellow in your life. So what to do? Go for the next best thing. Yes the person’s not really perfect, but neither are you. Sorry to say, but if you don't compromise soon, you'll stay single forever. Best thing to do, revisit your fantasy dream boy/girl and determine which is realistic and which should just remain as a fantasy. Once you've minimized down your fantasy part of that lucky person, see if you know someone that fits (if not perfectly, close to it) your criteria. If you do find the person, Go! Take a chance on that person :)you have my blessings

Here's a scenario for you: A dude sends his five year old car to a workshop so that some repair work and pimping out can be done. At first he felt like selling the car, but after his son begs him not to, he just had to send the car. So after talking to the mechanic, he promised to have the car ready in a week's time. The dude waited, for seven days he did. He was so excited, oh how he imagined the day when he will once again see the car he fell in love with five years ago. Just then, he received a call, it was the mechanic requesting for an extra two days to have the rims done. The dude was quite disappointed but what can he do, he had to face the problem and give the man an extra two days. Two days has passed, and a few events had to be canceled. The dude can't wait to get his car. Just as he thought everything went well, a phone call was received. Again, it was the mechanic, this time asking for an extra one day due to a setback that had happened. The dude got furious, he can't go on like this, it's his car and he wants it now, so he yelled at the mechanic and said bad stuff about him. The mechanic kept quiet. He didn't want to argue. He simply accepted the criticism and politely apologizes. The dude was still not satisfied, he ended the call and waited impatiently for twenty four hours to pass. The next morning, he received a phone call from the man. The car is done. The dude didn't seem too happy about it, he was still furious. He told the mechanic to send the car to the dude's house personally and make him take a cab afterwards, with the intention to take revenge on the frustration this dude's been going through. Thirty minutes has passed, and there it is. His shiny new pimped out golden car has arrived. He could not believe his eyes, it's even better than the car used to be five years ago. He was so happy, it was enough to bring him to tears. The man he cursed and insulted took care of his baby and made it beautiful again. It was perfect, flawless, and all the problems he had before was gone. The dude is once again, in love. He looked at the mechanic with a smile on his face and a stream of tears hanging from his upper lip, he said "Thank you" while approaching the man to hug him. He cried tears of joy on the man's right shoulder and said "I'm sorry for the things I said yesterday" the mechanic said nothing but just gave the poor man a pat on his shoulder. The dude then personally drove the mechanic back to his workshop and gave him a generous amount of money as tip. The dude then came home smiling, thinking about what had happened =)

Like the two men above, learn to compromise with one another and you'll see things from a different perspective. Like the dude who has missed out a lot because of the mechanic. Well the dude shouldn't have requested so many things to be done on the car at once if he depended on that car so much. Or like the mechanic who should've kept his promises. To me, there's no wrong, there's no right. It's just what happened, and how you deal with it. They both have done a good job at letting the customer know what's up and letting the mechanic do his job with the time that he needs. And I think they handled it well. Yes it's a true story.

Simply said, Compromise Damn it! :D

Waddup world :)

In this blog, I'll talk about life and how I see it, through my eyes. I'll try to make the complicated stuff in life seems clearer to you and much more in detail through my perspective, hence the title "Life in Technicolor HD" cause you'll see things in *drumroll*   -   HD ! ! ! BD *nerdy smile*


I'll fill in every week about problems people usually face in their daily lives and how you can avoid/go through it. I tell you now that everything I post is what I really feel about life, and if you can't accept it, I guess that's why they invented the close button. I hope you enjoy my blog and follow me if you find my blog helpful. Oh and one more thing, in this blog, if you do not rock, i'll throw a rock at you >:O last but not least, just have fun with it and if by some chance you like my advices and you need one of your own or if there's beef you want to settle with me, you can always email me on lifeology101@hotmail.com

PS: everything I post is on how I view life. And sometimes, what seems true to me might not be true to you but i'll try to keep it neutral (remember, i said "i'll try") =D

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